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This guide is compiled after doing some research and being a TS myself seeking a relationship, many of the points made here hold very true to many TS’s rather be pre-op or post-op.
Treat a TS like a lady to win her over and keep her happy and she will be happy with her man. Point is, treat like a genetic girl, what appeals to them will also appeal to a TS.
Women want to be treated special. They want to be loved and they are sentimental, more emotional and can be a bitch and difficult to be around at times. Now women don’t want to be a complete bitches no more than a man wants to be around them. So, here are some of the basics.
1. Opening Doors: A TS wants to be treated like a lady. Show some common courtesies, like opening the car door and closing it for her instead of just hitting the button. She will appreciate it.
2. Bringing Flowers: Flowers brighten a woman’s life. The colors, scent, great to look at and very inexpensive. Flowers tell a woman you want to brighten her day and that you care about her.
3. Little Gifts: Like any genetic woman, TS’s love surprises. They don’t have to be expensive but something that shows that you care and that she is important to you, ie: bubble bath, bath sets, body wash, etc..
4. Notes of Endearment: Little notes left in different places show that you care and she is appreciated and loved.
5. Greeting Cards: If you happen to be in a store that has greeting cards, pick one out to give to her. Spend some time and read the sentimental. If you don’t like card picking and sentimental stuff, pick a funny one, she will love either one. Make sure it reflects you on paper.
6. Dinner Out: All women, including TS’s love restaurants. It is a great way of spending time together. The very act of taking her out is an act of consideration and love. It can be someplace elegant or casual. The main thing is that it is not important where you go or how much you spend, it is that you are with the lady you enjoying being with.
The main thing is that they want to be loved and appreciated. If you are her man, then she surely wants to be loved and appreciated by her man specifically. She wants to know you care. You have to repeatedly show and tell her. She isn’t going to pick that up by osmosis. When your lady is happy, she wants to please you and make you happy. She can’t be happy and satisfied with you unless you give her the kind of attention that she needs. It is a two way street. Women, genetic or TS’s, don’t think like men. Her mind is and emotional makeup is different than a man.
How to Date a Pre-Op TS Woman
Not all girls are born female. There is a special class of women out there, with a different set of attributes than the genetic girl. It is the transsexual woman.
1. Why would a gut want to date a Pre-Op TS
A lot of guys who show interest in a TS’s are in fact bisexual or bicurious. Still others are looking for cheap thrills. Some men find TS’s to be more feminine than GG’s and then there are some who seem to just plain connect better with a pre-op TS than a GG. For guys that are just seeking a sexual experience, there are plenty of TS escorts available who will happily provide an exciting experience for a fee and without any danger of attachment.
Some men find today’s so called independent woman to be not very feminine, overly assertive, argumentive and prove to charactizing a simple male advance as harassment. Others find solance with a pre-op TS because she used to be male and has a far better understanding then most GG’s ever will.
2. Sexual Confusion and Disorientation
Some guys think that if he is attracted to a TS femininity, her looks, her movement, her voice, her smile, her scent and all those other feminine cues, then he thinks he is gay. Gay guys are not attracted to those attributes.
Therefore, if a straight man finds himself interested in a pre-op TS and is experiencing some confusion, then he needs to consider exactly what it is about her that is attracting him. If it’s her femininity, than he’s not responding like a gay man and shouldn’t worry about if he is turning gay. If the guy can accept that he is attracted to a somewhat different kind of woman and still wants to pursue it, then take one step at a time.
Take her out to dinner or a movie. Talk to her about whatever, listen to her, look into her eyes. Can he get lost in her eyes as he would with a GG? If so, take one more step. Hold hands, kiss her goodnight. Treat her like you would any GG on a date.
3. What does a TS look for in a guy
What does any woman look for in a guy? A straight man who loves and appreciates women.
A transsexual woman wants a man with class, respect, morals, intelligence, humor and loyalty. What a TS wants in a guy is what most any woman wants in a guy. If a guy wants to develop a relationship with a TS, how should he approach her?
A TS who hangs out online gets dozens of instant messages and emails about sexual encounters. A TS who has the genuine sensibilities of the female will not respond to any such sexual adventure proposals any better than most GG’s will.
4. How should a guy approach and treat a TS
A male to female transsexual is defined as a woman in a man’s body. The key thing to remember is ‘ a woman in a man’s body’. If a guy wants to get past her suspicious about the nature of his interest in her, don’t offer her a dick. Offer her flowers and a dinner date. He needs to express his interest the same way he would any GG.
What genetic females will appreciate, so will a TS. Don’t treat her like a freak. You can almost be certain that she will resent being treated as a curiousity. She has endured a lot of pain and turmoil over gender issues. Be understanding of her ordeal. Get past her plumbing issues and think of her femininity. It is not that hard to do and she will greatly appreciate it.
This article should satisfy your curiousity about what a TS is, what she needs and how she thinks. Therefore, a guy doesn’t need to bring up TS issues on the first date. Instead, he should focus on her, her life and her interests. She shouldn’t be treated any differently than any other woman, in fact, she craves for it. On the other hand, she also fully expects her date to ask inappropriate sex and TS related questions because it happens all the time.
If you want to surprise and delight her, don’t even bring the subject up. Let her be the one to bring it up, if she wants. By doing this, not only will it make a big impression, it will put you miles ahead of everyone else.
One thing to remember, odds are she is taking female hormones. This often results in feminine mood swings. The pre-op TS may still have male plumbing, but psychologically she’s a girl.
How does a Pre-Op TS Woman regard herself?
She responds as a woman, therefore she regards herself as one. But being female for her is a lot more difficult that it is for a GG. Why? You ask. Imagine how men that she meets react when she tells them that she is a pre-op TS. Usually the guy will immediately lose interest or react with disgust. Worse, this will impact her sense of self-worth and esteem.
Who is attracted to a TS? Mostly bi guys and thrill seekers. For a pre-op TS to find a man who will accept her as a woman is difficult. A TS is very likely looking for a straight man, for it is a man who make her feel like a woman she is. Gay men will generally not find a TS of interest. But for the man who can appreciate her femaleness, accept and love her is in for a huge benefit. He will be on the receiving end of a whole lot attention, affection and desire to please. She will wear very feminine clothing, work hard to perfect her makeup. Why not, after all she loves being a girl and finally has a man who appreciates her and not very likely to take him for granted. TS’s often have a better understanding of what men want and a better grip on how to be female.
Sex with a Pre-Op TS
Now we are getting into the heart of this subject. Those men who find themselves attracted to a pre-op TS but are wary of the prospects of sex, here’s a solution. The solution is to think of having sex with a TS as just having a plumbing issue. Forget about her penis, there is no vaginia, so get over it. A TS on hormones may not have a functional penis and a TS with the sensibilities of a woman is very unlikely to want to screw a guy in the ass or stuff it down his throat. So anyway, a straight guy need not to worry about that.
So, what are the options? Time for the orifice inventory. Will a TS suck a penis? Get screwed in the ass? It’s very likely she will. Can she orgasm? Many do from anal sex. TS’s on hormones tend to orgasm repeatedly, much as GG’s can, but without the usual male type ejaculation. Anal sex need not be messy, an experienced TS will know how to make it a great experience.
What are the essence of femininity? Females are nurturers and please by nature. They are warm, lovely beings who love to please. Sex tend to be tied up with romantic love. Women love to be taken by a masculine man and TS’s are not different since it is the act erotic surrender that centers them. That makes them feel like real woman. Therefore, hardly any true TS with the sensibilities of a woman will not be looking to “top” a guy nor will be looking for a guy who wants to suck her penis. Foreplay? Remember, treat her like a woman and she will respond as such.
The TS in search of a Boyfriend
Finding a good relationship is tough for a woman. It’s tougher for a post-op transsexual and the toughest of all for a pre-op TS. The pre-op TS faces a serious challenge in finding a boyfriend. The pool of candidates for GG’s is huge. The pool is smaller for a post-op TS and the pre-op TS has the smallest pool available.
The guys first email to a TS girl
When guys ask a Ts girl for a date, there is a list of things to do and things not to do. You are definitely going to strike out with a TS girl if you don’t provide her with the style she wants to see and enough information on which to base a decision. When you ask a girl for a date, you need to meet certain expectations. Among them are: mane, location and age.
When you ask a girl for a date, don’t just send an email that says something like, “ I think you are hot”. It is sexually suggestive and not appropriate to send to a TS girl who is seeking a relationship. She is going to immediately assume you are just looking for sex.
Most TS’s do not want sex talk in the first email or even marriage proposals. Also, no TS’s girl is seeking a relationship with a man who is married or in another relationship. Never ask in your first email if they will travel to meet a guy, it won’t work.
When you write to a TS or ask a girl for a date, you create an expectation of an expeditions response if she is interested. If she finds you interesting, you don’t want to take a long time to reply. Truth matters to most any TS girl or GG. When you ask a girl for a date, get to the point and be honest. Like: be honestly single and don’t send an old picture of yourself or even a fake one. Most of all, don’t send one with your penis in it. Every girl has seen one.
Be sensitive to the meaning of your words when you ask a girl for a date. Most any Ts girl seeking a relationship is looking for a straight guy who likes women. It is a sad fact that many of the emails directed at TS’s are from men looking for a penis. If that is what you want, you are probably making a mistake to approach most TS women about it. The main thing is that the guy needs to treat TS’s like women that they are and not as some strange sex toy or oddity for them to play with.
The bottom line is this, when asking a girl for a date or just exploring the possibility of doing so, is to be clear, honest and provide enough information about yourself so that you stand out from the crowd in a way that is interesting and appealing.
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